If mans not married hes either gay or somethings wrong
by Fred Penzel, PhD
This article was initially published in the Winter 2007 edition of the OCD Newsletter.
OCD, as we know, is largely about experiencing serious and unrelenting doubt. It can cause you to doubt even the most basic things about yourself – even your sexual orientation. A 1998 revise published in the Journal of Sex Research create that among a collective of 171 college students, 84% reported the occurrence of sexual intrusive thoughts (Byers, et al. 1998). In order to hold doubts about one’s sexual identity, a sufferer depend on not ever have had a homo- or heterosexual experience, or any type of sexual experience at all. I have observed this symptom in youthful children, adolescents, and adults as well. Interestingly Swedo, et al., 1989, found that approximately 4% of children with OCD experience obsessions concerned with forbidden offensive or perverse sexual thoughts.
Although doubts about one’s have sexual identity might sound pretty straightforward as a symptom, there are actually a number of variations. The most obvious shape is where a sufferer experiences the thought that they might be of a different sexual orientation than they formerly believed. If the su
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The Epidemic of
Gay LonelinessBy Michael Hobbes
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“I used to get so thrilled when the meth was all gone.”
This is my friend Jeremy.
“When you contain it,” he says, “you have to keep using it. When it’s gone, it’s like, ‘Oh nice, I can go advocate to my life now.’ I would stay up all weekend and move to these sex parties and then feel prefer shit until Wednesday. About two years ago I switched to cocaine because I could work the next day.”
Jeremy is telling me this from a hospital bed, six stories above Seattle. He won’t tell me the correct circumstances of the overdose, only that a stranger called an ambulance and he woke up here.
Jeremy is not the acquaintance I was expecting to have this conversation with. Until a few weeks ago, I had no idea he used anything heavier than martinis. He is trim, intelligent, gluten-free, the kind of guy who wears a serve shirt no matter what day of the week it is. The first time we met, three years ago, he asked me if I knew a good place to do CrossFit. Today, when I ask him how the hospital’s been so far, the first thing he says is that there’s no Wi-F
How Should Christians Respond to Gay Friends or Family Members?
Caleb Kaltenbach (M.A. ’07) is an alumnus of Biola’s Talbot School of Theology, lead pastor of a large church in Simi Valley, Calif., and a married father of two. He’s also an emerging voice in the discussion of how Christians should engage the LGBT community. That’s because Kaltenbach has an insider perspective, having been raised by a dad and mom who divorced and independently came out of the closet as a gay bloke and a female homosexual. Raised in the midst of LGBT parties and self-acceptance parades, Kaltenbach became a Christian and a pastor as a young individual. Today, he manages the tension of holding to the traditional biblical training on sexuality while loving his lgbtq+ parents.
Kaltenbach’s unique story is detailed in his new guide Messy Grace: How a Pastor with Gay Parents Learned to Love Others Without Sacrificing Conviction and landed him on the front page of the New York Times in June. Biola Magazine reached out to him to talk about his book and his perspective on how Christians can beat navigate the complexities of this issue with truth and grace.
In your guide you say that it’s time for Christians to hold the issu Infidelity and Forgiveness: The Complexities of Coming Out in a Straight Relationship All relationships have rules, but sometimes those rules get broken. When we are in a connection, we expect that our partner will keep our interests in mind even if he or she is tempted to disregard the rules. When the rules are violated, the wrongdoer may be called on to account for his or her deed. Sexual infidelity is the epitome of “rule breaking” and can disrupt or end meaningful relationships. I understand something about breaking rules because I was married with two children when I unexpectedly fell in love with a gentleman. Things suddenly shifted inside my head, and I went from thinking I was straight to knowing I was gay; nothing else could explain what I felt. By most measures, my marriage was good. My wife and I were best friends and had an acceptable sex life. Shortly before I came out to my wife, she had no idea about my conflict concerning my sexual orientation. Research on gay men has frequently focused on fidelity and the capacity to sustain long-term relationships. Yet almost nothing has been written about men who have sex with Sometimes a woman may possess been in a heterosexual relationship for years and yet feel something is somehow "off;" and she may detect herself asking, "Is my husband gay?" Many women come across this question unthinkable but according to Bonnie Kaye, M.ED., an expert in women married to gay men, it is estimated that 4 million women have been, or are, married to gay men. If a husband is gay, it can devastate not only the relationship but the straight wife as well. The clearest way to grasp if your husband is gay is if he tells you. If the husband is decent with both you and with himself (read: How Execute I Know If I Am Gay? Signs You Are Gay), that is when you can truly know that he is lgbtq+. Unfortunately, it is estimated that 50% of gay husbands hide their homosexuality from their wives and don't arrive this place of honesty on their own. In many cases, it is the wife, who after suspecting that something is mistaken, must confront the gay husband with the evidence, and only then can honestly be achieved. But if you're wondering, "Is my gentleman gay," it might be helpful to know that there are signs to look for, accordin
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